Ep 13: Prime Rib, Choosing Peace, and Setting Boundaries with Geli Jimenez
Timestamps:
1. Patreon Ad — Bo-Dara — 1:53
2. Welcome to Episode Thirteen — Wednesday Energy — 2:38
3. Meet Geli — Wendy's Friend, Ex-Supervisor, Guest — 3:44
4. The Florida Plague and Octopus Aliens — 5:03
5. Hard Drugs at Fourteen — 7:12
6. Catholic Guilt and the Practical Magic Gay Awakening — 11:01
7. Content Warning — Drug Use and Assault — 15:33
8. Losing a Pregnancy — 15:56
9. The First Kiss — 17:31
10. Seven Years of No Contact and Choosing Peace — 20:56
11. Coming Out in the Frozen Food Aisle — 24:01
12. The Ultimatum and Walking Out the Door — 25:19
13. Meeting Wendy and Finding a Work Family — 39:24
14. The New Year's Party and Meeting Her Wife — 58:28
15. Marriage, Autism, and Breaking the Cycle — 1:01:52
16. Finding God Again — The Bishop's Answer — 1:17:31
17. Advice for Baby Geli — 1:20:37
18. Tongue First — Prime Rib and Bobert — 1:24:24
19. Outro, Credits, and Thank Yous — 1:27:14
Prime Rib, Choosing Peace, and Setting Boundaries with Geli Jimenez
Some guests bring a story. Geli Jimenez brings a whole life — and she tells it with more humor and grace than most people could manage on their best day, let alone while describing their worst ones.
Geli is Wendy's close friend and former supervisor, and this episode is proof that some of the best friendships start as work acquaintances who quietly clock each other as safe people long before anyone says so out loud.
Catholic, Closeted, and Watching Sandra Bullock
Geli grew up Hispanic and deeply Catholic, splitting time between an unstable home and her grandmother's house, where she and her cousin served as altar servers and heard priests preach that gay people were going to hell. She realized she was gay watching Practical Magic as a kid — a gay awakening so early and so complete that, in her words, anyone who ever saw a picture of her back then would immediately understand there was no hiding it.
She tried anyway. She dated boys. She read the Bible seven times. She denied it for years.
Hard Drugs at Fourteen
At fourteen, Geli's older sister — newly out of the house and deep in her own addiction — got her high for the first time, then offered her something much harder. Geli describes it almost like a divine intervention: broken lighters, a shattered pipe, a trip to the neighbors for another one, and by the third obstacle, something in her said no. She sat that one out. It's one of the most quietly remarkable moments in the episode, precisely because she doesn't treat it like one.
Loss, and Losing God
Geli talks openly about a relationship in her teens where she got pregnant, disclosed it to her partner, and was beaten badly enough to lose the baby. She delivers the story with a bluntness that catches Siren and Wendy off guard in real time — and that bluntness is its own kind of survival. She lost her relationship with God around this time too, and describes the slow, complicated process of finding her way back to a faith that could actually hold her instead of one that only condemned her.
Coming Out in the Frozen Food Aisle
When Geli finally came out to her mother, she did it in the frozen food section of a grocery store — on purpose, so there would be no chance of getting hit in front of witnesses. Her mother's first reaction was a punch to the arm. Later that night, when her mother's boyfriend gave Geli an ultimatum — her girlfriend or this house — her mother said nothing at all. Geli left. She hasn't spoken to her mother since.
That was almost seven years ago. She describes it as the best decision she's ever made.
Building Something Different
What follows in this episode is the good part — and there's a lot of it. Geli talks about getting an autism diagnosis in her thirties and finally understanding herself differently. About meeting her wife at a New Year's Eve party, the swerve that almost didn't lead anywhere, and twelve years of marriage that keeps waiting for the other shoe to drop and simply never does. About parenting her son — who reminds her so much of herself at his age — and the conscious, daily work of breaking cycles instead of repeating them.
She also talks about what she wants to put into the world now: kindness, and the promise that nobody around her ever has to go through anything alone.
The Rest of It
Because it's still Tongue First: an accidental drug tutorial nobody asked for, height discourse, guns and fishing poles defying every stereotype anyone's ever handed her, a Mother Teresa journal reference, and a prime rib dinner that Wendy is quick to point out was a little ungay of her.
If you've ever had to choose peace over a parent, or needed proof that life gets better on the other side of letting go — this one is for you.
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