What’s Tongue First?
About the Podcast
Tongue First is a queer podcast hosted by Aubrey “Siren” Jones and Wendy Reeves, built around the belief that honest conversation can make people feel a little less alone.
Through stories, humor, curiosity, and the occasional spiral into absolute chaos, the show explores relationships, identity, intimacy, internet culture, and the messy realities of being human. More than anything, Tongue First is about connection — creating the kind of space where queer people can feel seen, heard, desired, challenged, understood, and fully themselves without needing to shrink or perform.
Some conversations are deeply vulnerable. Some are completely unhinged. Most are a little bit of both.
Meet Your Hosts
Tongue First was born out of friendship, chemistry, and a mutual love for real human connection.
Aubrey Jane Jones and Wendy Reeves first met through TikTok Live battles and quickly realized how naturally they fell into conversation together. What started as banter between creators quickly became something deeper — long conversations about life, identity, relationships, internet culture, queer community, and the strange chaos of being human. Their audiences noticed the chemistry almost immediately, drawn to the balance between Wendy’s sharp, spicy energy and Aubrey’s emotional depth and curiosity.
The two share the same birthday, matching tattoos they got long before knowing each other existed, and a deep love for creating spaces where people feel seen, safe, desired, understood, and fully themselves. Together, they’ve built Tongue First into the kind of place that feels like a tattoo shop, coffee shop, bookstore, and Pride event all wrapped into one — equal parts heartfelt conversation, queer chaos, healing, humor, and absolute nonsense.
Aubrey “Siren” Jones
Aubrey Jane Jones — known online by many as Siren — is a queer, trans content creator, speaker, poet, storyteller, and mother of two who believes deeply in the power of authentic human connection.
After coming out as transgender at 33 years old, Aubrey built an online community rooted in honesty, vulnerability, humor, and the belief that people deserve to take up space exactly as they are. Whether she’s talking about queerness, relationships, identity, internet culture, healing, or the strange and beautiful realities of being human, she approaches conversation with empathy, curiosity, emotional depth, and an unwavering commitment to authenticity.
Through both her spoken storytelling and her poetry, Aubrey explores themes of identity, transformation, grief, healing, love, queerness, faith, and what it means to be fully seen. Her work often lives in the tension between softness and confidence, sincerity and chaos, humor and heartbreak — constantly searching for the humanity that exists underneath all of it.
Outside of the podcast, Aubrey is known for creating spaces that make people feel seen, desired, safe, and loved — often while simultaneously causing just enough chaos to keep things interesting. Her communities are built around the idea that vulnerability is powerful, curiosity matters, and no one should have to earn the right to exist fully as themselves.
Wendy Reeves
Wendy Reeves is a content creator, community builder, and self-described “spicy nice” human whose humor, honesty, and protective nature have made her a deeply loved presence both online and off.
Known for her sharp wit, playful intensity, and ability to make people laugh through difficult conversations, Wendy brings a grounded, fearless energy to Tongue First. While she may look intimidating at first glance, underneath the sarcasm and occasional “I’ll cut you” energy is someone deeply committed to making people feel safe, heard, and understood.
Wendy thrives in conversations that go beyond surface-level interaction — the kind that reveal someone’s heart as much as their mind. Whether she’s spiraling into chaos with Aubrey, defending her community fiercely, or making trauma funny in the most unexpectedly healing way possible, she approaches life with emotional honesty, curiosity, and a deeply human kind of humor.
Outside of the podcast, Wendy is passionate about her platform, mental health advocacy, her community, and Titus — while continuing to embody the exact energy of what would happen if a feral squirrel became emotionally intelligent.
Why We Started Tongue First
Tongue First started because we wanted a space where conversations could exist without censorship, performance, or the pressure to constantly water ourselves down.
On fast-moving platforms, meaningful conversations often get interrupted, filtered, buried, or forced into fragments. We wanted to create something slower and more intentional — a place where humor, vulnerability, desire, identity, conflict, healing, curiosity, queer joy, and real human messiness could all exist in the same conversation without needing to be simplified or hidden behind code words.
More than anything, we wanted to build the kind of space we were searching for ourselves: one where people feel seen, heard, safer, lighter, understood, and a little less alone. A place where difficult conversations can still be funny, where vulnerability doesn’t have to be polished, and where community is built through honesty instead of performance.
Tongue First exists to remind people that all aspects of their humanity are valid and lovable — and that connection, curiosity, and being fully yourself are things worth fighting for.