Ep 2 - Gay Bars, Powdered Sugar, and Jared from the Internet
Timestamps:
00:00 — Mic Tapping, Workplace Grievances, and Meeting Jared
03:03 — Harry Potter, Queerness, and Problematic Fandoms
05:24 — TikTok Lives, Dating Apps, and Sniffies
10:00 — Relationships, Polyamory, and Moving Too Fast
13:08 — Queer Identity and Defining “Queer”
20:25 — Growing Up Gay and Coming Out Stories
27:27 — Transitioning, Sexuality, and “Egg Cracking”
31:00 — New Orleans, Gay Bars, and Jared Having Game
42:30 — TikTok Friendships Becoming Real Life
47:42 — The Emotional Reality of TikTok Live
56:02 — Advice for New Content Creators
1:03:55 — Toxic Viewers, Parasocial Manipulation, and Boundaries
1:12:12 — Queer Politics, Trolls, and Existing Online
1:15:00 — Tongue First Questions and Jared’s “Top Energy”
1:16:43 — Outro + Jared from the Internet
Gay Bars, Powdered Sugar, and Jared from the Internet
There’s something deeply queer about meeting someone on the internet, trauma bonding in a TikTok Live, and then suddenly finding yourself eating beignets together in New Orleans like you’ve known each other for ten years.
Episode 2 of Tongue First brings in the show’s first official guest: Jared from the Internet — teacher, creator, professional hand talker, and self-described “sweet little baby angel.” What starts as a conversation about TikTok friendships and queer creator culture quickly unfolds into one of the most unexpectedly heartfelt episodes of the season so far.
Together, Siren, Wendy, and Jared dive into queer identity, coming out stories, dating apps, parasocial relationships, loneliness, queer community, and the weird emotional intimacy that comes from building relationships online in front of thousands of people. The conversation moves effortlessly between hilarious and deeply vulnerable, which honestly feels like the purest version of Tongue First possible.
There are stories about:
Mardi Gras in New Orleans
chaotic queer Airbnb energy
gay bars and accidental flirting
TikTok Live culture
online friendships becoming real-life family
polyamory and relationship dynamics
queer identity and authenticity
religious shame and growing up different
livestream burnout and emotional exhaustion
and an alarming amount of discussion about smelling people
This episode also marks one of the first times the podcast really settles into its core identity: unscripted conversations that feel less like a performance and more like sitting in the kitchen with queer friends at 1am while everyone keeps accidentally getting emotionally honest.
And because it’s Tongue First, there’s still plenty of absolute nonsense:
powdered sugar everywhere, dingle hoppers, “Sniffies,” Wendy threatening strangers, and at least one conversation about whether or not Jared could top a top.
Honestly? He probably could.
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